How Much Should The Wedding Party Help?
February 7, 2010 - 12:10 am
In your honest opinion, what jobs to you expect your wedding party to complete? What do you expect them to do for you during the course of your wedding planning? What do you expect from them at the wedding?
I’m finding that so many brides expect too much from their bridal party and I’m wondering what other people consider to be a bridesmaid’s or MOH’s job? Is there anything you see other brides asking their bridal parties to do that’s asking too much?
i dont expect a lot! Obviously, be at my wedding shower/bach. party, but they dont have to plan/pay for EVERYTHING. im sure ill need their help towards the end cuz i plan on doin a loy of DIY stuff. And the day of the wedding, just have fun!
February 7th, 2010 at 5:52 am
Well, as much as they want to help. My bridesmaids helped with showers in different states. They also helped plan a bachelorette party and just provided support the day of the wedding.
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February 7th, 2010 at 6:38 am
The only thing that is "required" of the wedding party is to show up at the wedding and support the bride and groom while they take their vows..
Everything else is optional.
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February 7th, 2010 at 7:11 am
This is something brides and bridesmaids need to settle before anyone agrees to anything, and especially before anyone spends any money. I’d say that minimally a bridesmaid who lives locally should expect to
1. Help with addressing envelopes, writing in names on invitations, making and taking "will you be attending?" phone calls, etc.
2. Showing up on time for rehearsal and wedding, wearing a dress which the bride has pre-approved, and behaving graciously, and most especially praising the bride and making much of her.
3. Help with writing and address thank you letters.
If a bride expects more than this, the bride should make this clear when she "offers" the "honor" to her friends. Judging by the Y!A Wedding Drama questions, brides can expect a bridesmaid’s duties to include handing over $100 or more on demand and being her best friend who will do whatever she wants no matter what and always have time for her on a moment’s notice. This is unreasonable.
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February 7th, 2010 at 7:55 am
I consider my wedding party to be the "elite" of my friends that I want to share a special part in my big day with me. These are the friends that would come with me shopping just for normal clothes or provide moral support in everything I do, as I would for them.
I expect them to be cooperative and help me out on my wedding day. Whatever they decide to do with showers and bachelorette parties is up to them. I want to get ready with them on my wedding day (which will remind me of prom) but I don’t want them to stress about my wedding because I know they have their own lives.
My MOH lives out of state and is coming in to town a week early to help me…but this was her decision, not mine. We will probably assemble my wedding favors and centerpieces, and she will help me keep perspective and not freak out.
I think people that basically want their bridal party to do all their dirty work are just selfish.
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February 7th, 2010 at 8:07 am
A bridesmaid may/will:
- help the bride shop for her wedding dress, accessories, shoes, and flowers.
- attend cake tasting and facility renting excursions, and help the bride research wedding traditions.
- may help stuff wedding invitations into their envelopes, create wedding favors, and provide emotional support to the bride
- pay for their bridesmaid dress, shoes, accessories, accommodations and travel costs, and the bachelorette party or shower. Bridesmaids are expected to shop for their bridesmaid dresses and participate in dress fittings.
Bridesmaids are expected to attend – and often help plan – the engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, and farewell brunch or tea the day after the wedding. These duties do may be different if the wedding is not a big traditional church wedding.
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http://wedding-planning.suite101.com